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A COLOSSAL CHEAT SHEET FOR YOUR postcollege years. Finally, all the needs of the modern girl—from the benefits of a Roth IRA to the pleasure and pain of dating (and why it’s not a cliché to love yourself first), from figuring out what to wear to a job interview to the delicate enterprise of defriending—are addressed in one rollicking volume. Here is the perfect combA COLOSSAL CHEAT SHEET FOR YOUR postcollege years. Finally, all the needs of the modern girl—from the benefits of a Roth IRA to the pleasure and pain of dating (and why it’s not a cliché to love yourself first), from figuring out what to wear to a job interview to the delicate enterprise of defriending—are addressed in one rollicking volume. Here is the perfect combination of solid advice and been-there secrets for every one of life’s conundrums you might confront, all delivered in Melissa Kirsch’s fresh, personal, funny voice, as if your best and smartest friend were giving you the best and smartest advice in the world....

Title : The Girl's Guide to Absolutely Everything
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ISBN : 9780761135791
Format Type : Paperback
Number of Pages : 640 Pages
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The Girl's Guide to Absolutely Everything Reviews

  • Erika
    2019-04-20 05:00

    Confession: my college roommate and dear friend wrote this book. I am quoted in this book. Nonetheless, it is an amazing book! Here's the thing: no one told you that coming out of college would be a time replete with strange feelings of ambivalence, anxiety, a sense of "this is it? what do I know?" For me, it was one of the most difficult periods of my life. And now my dear friend has gone and written a book about how to deal with it. Melissa truly has a gift with words and wit, and you, too, will feel like you're friends with her.Perfect for any young woman graduating from college or going through a "quarter-life crisis," as they're being called now. This is the kind of book you can sit down to, open up any page, laugh, relate, and get good solid steps about how to get through your latest dilemma. Not just an advice book, but a funny, witty look at what it means to become a grown-up and how to do it.

  • Amanda [Novel Addiction]
    2019-03-28 22:50

    This book had some good information, though I can see it being better for those in their senior year of Highschool or heading into college.. or maybe even right after college, when "real life" begins. But there was very little in here that I didn't already know, and the one section I was really interested in was painfully short.

  • Bonnie
    2019-03-27 23:10

    a little basic, & a little conservative.

  • Jen
    2019-04-02 23:42

    Usually I couldn't care less about self-help/guidebooks. They all have a different formula to sell to make you into your perfect self, or offer advice based off the authors own miserable mistakes - frankly I’m usually not interested. Having said this, The Girl’s Guide to Absolutely Everything by Melissa Kirsch feels like my own personal Hitchhiker’s Guide to Galaxy and I highly recommend it (both actually). I picked up this book out curiosity thinking: "I'm an adult, what could this book possibly tell me that I don't already know or that I couldn't find on the internet," but after looking at the table of contents I was intrigued. Kirch highlights almost every random question I've had. So I started reading it and was hooked by page 10. Kirsch takes every question you've ever had about life and lays out it in an eloquently written guide - Questions you were too embarrassed to ask your mom or too proud to ask your friends about. For example, how do you know when you need therapy, and if you’re considering therapy, what type do you need? What kind of health care do you need to have? How can you improve your body image? How can you nail a job interview every time? Is grad school for you? What kind of budget do you need? Are your id and superego controlling your spending habits? Do you need an 401k, an IRA, or something else? Are credit cards a gateway drug to debt? Are stocks something you should get involved with? What are some etiquette essentials? Are you a good friend? How do you make new friends or eliminate toxic ones? When is a friendship worth saving? Can you do long distance relationships? Kirsch covers a lot in this massive tome, but it was a quick read and didn't feel arduous to me. Kirsch discusses these questions along with input from professionals in their given fields. For example, when Kirsch deals with body image, health care, and mental health, she has quotes and opinions from gynecologists, nutritionists, Chinese medicine experts, psychiatrists, therapists, and more. This diverse and reliable input allows the reader to understand some of the solutions to the questions discussed in a more comprehensive manner. For example, when discussing 4 ways to make cramps more manageable, Kirsch gets a nutritionist to illustrate the benefits to taking a combination of primrose, borage, and fish oil to combat PMS symptoms. The gynecologist says to give up ice cream, cottage cheese, and yogurt, because a dairy fast can give some women a reprieve from menstrual symptoms. The Chinese medicine expert recommends staying away from cold things (ice cream, cold packs, etc.) because coldness obstructs blood and chi flows, so use warm things (hot packs, tea, application of warm herbs to the abdomen, etc.) to restore balance to your body/soul. Finally the crampologist recommends ibuprofen, a heating pad on the pelvis, and a heat pack to stick under your clothes during the day. Kirsch truly covers a lot of ground in this book, and it would be impossible for me to discuss all of it here. However, I’ll try to touch on some of my favorite bits.When discussing stress and getting the blues, Kirsch tells the reader to try talking it out with a friend or family member to get perspective, write down what you are feeling, and most importantly don’t suppress what you are feeling. She states “We wouldn't appreciate our good moods if we didn't acknowledge our bad ones.” Kirsch also tells the reader to consider therapy if you’re stress or blues are persistent. Kirsch outlines some of the reason someone might get therapy, the various types of therapy and what issues they are used to treat, and how long you could expect to be in therapy in these therapies.The woman’s sexual bill of rights is another section of this book I liked the most. Some of these “inalienable rights” include the freedom of speech, a woman’s right to sexual pleasure shall not be infringed or limited, the missionary position should never be assumed (any position should be fair game), a woman is entitled to stop any sexual contact “that makes her feel like a blow-up doll,” women are different and respond differently to sexual experiences, all partners should have a clean sexual bill of health, women can do what they want with their own pubic hair, orgasms don’t determine success, and finally hygiene before or after are with the woman’s rights.In addition to the Sexual Bill of Rights, Kirsch provides an awesome list of women reading materials, a few of which are: The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans, The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker, and How to be a Good Lover by Lou Paget. There is also a very interesting question and answer section, and information about birth control and STDs."Home Ec for Modern Times" was a chapter in this book that covered homemaking tips that your mother didn't teach you. Kircsh discusses how to find an apartment or home to live that fits you budget (noting that you your rent or mortgage should be no more than 25% of your gross monthly income), what to look for during an inspection, do you need renter’s insurance, and how to sign a lease. Kirsch talks about quick and easy ways to keep house, like creating an installment plan to keep your apartment spotless, which involves cleaning in installments (one task a day, 15 minutes a day, or one room a day) and this will help you stay either tidy, clean, or spotless. Kirsch also discusses how to hire a housekeeper if needed and how much you should pay him or her (and tip!).Finally, "Fashion Sense for Any Era" was a chapter where Kirsch discusses the importance of not following trends and dressing to your figure. Kirsch talks about finding foundation items that are comfortable, dependable, and solidly constructed. Foundation items are: a good pair of black pants, a little black dress, a classic cut skirt, jeans that fit you to perfection, a white button down, or a solid colored cardigan. Kirsch also discusses a cost per wear equation. Cost per wear is the cost of garment divided by the number of times you wear the garment. If you spend $200 on a pair of pants and wear it at least twice a week all fall and winter (about 64 times), you are spending $3.13 per wear. Conversely a pair of pants that costs $29.99 that you wore four times costs $7.50 per wear. Additionally Kirsch provides advice from an image consultant who gives some very interesting insight in to dressing common sense and how to figure out what looks best on your body type; for example if you have short legs you could balance it by wearing heels, high-waisted dresses, or dresses that hit just above the knee, but you should avoid low-rise pants, flats, and ankle straps. There are of course many other interesting sections to this book, that I haven’t talked about, but it is a very long book. Despite its length, it is a quick read, and its ok to skip around depending on your problem or interest.I would recommend this book ladies in high school, college, 20-somethings, middle-aged women, and to the classy ladies in the red hat society. I would recommend this book to fathers, brothers, and husbands. This is officially the first self-help/guidebook I enjoyed and will probably reference back to when my friends or I am having a problem.

  • Ali
    2019-04-09 21:45

    Are you floudering through your 20s? Do you know a girl who's about to graduate college? Are you wondering how the hell you move from college student to adult? (It is not a short or simple process, btw). This is a MUST HAVE book.True story: I got this book for free because I had to write a publicity piece for it for a job interview test. I never heard back from them, but they let me keep the book. Worth it? ABSOLUTELY. I've had this book for close to 7 years, and I still refer to it pretty frequently. It really teaches you how to begin the path to be an Independent Woman. It's straight-forward, it's funny, it's relatable; honestly, I can't think of a negative thing to say about it. Admittedly, a lot of the information is common sense and a lot of it can be found easily on any web page (health and fashion, especially) but other chapters I go back to quite often. Money, manners, home...this is stuff that I think most girls don't really think about right after college, and it's a shame, because they really should. A lot of books out there tell young women how to make their 20s fabulous. Know what this book says? The 20s are HARD and CONFUSING and it's OK to feel overwhelmed and lost. But that is not an excuse to be late on bills, skip doctor appointments, or resort to retail therapy when you're upset. This is definitely a "this is the beginning of the rest of your life, now suck it up, deal with it, and get ready to face everything head on" book.Love this book.

  • Deb
    2019-04-16 22:43

    this book is packed with information on how to live independantly--though there's a chapter on moving back in with the parents that starts off saying "don't do it. couch surf first." There are chapters on health, finances (beyond OMG a budget!), the etiquette that your mother never taught you or you just ignored, getting along with your family, dating/flinging, cooking, spirituality, just about everything. It's a lot more useful than the powderpuff "Tough Chick's Guide to Home Improvement" that I received last Christmas...

  • Amanda
    2019-04-06 22:48

    I love a good life-reference book, and this was a big winner in the "how to lady" category. Mostly an info-dump, and I was sad that I ran out of library time. Will likely just buy a copy.

  • Jessica
    2019-04-03 04:56

    Love love love this book! Would recommend it to any girl graduating high school or finishing college.

  • Melissa
    2019-04-23 22:08

    I thought this was an interesting and informative book. I do, however, think it is becoming dated.

  • Lauren H
    2019-04-21 21:56

    yeah, i know. it's one of those books. but i've genuinely found it helpful on more than a few occasions. while i sincerely doubt that any volume at all can every succinctly address every situation you might ever face from any and all perspectives, it's a worthy bookshelf sitter (even if you might keep it hidden somewhere else instead).it's genuine and not at all chic-lit-y, thank god. it's started me on the path to opening an IRA, not telling me how to snap my gum and bemoan the lack of available men in a cheeky, yet lovable, tone.i just wish it were spiral bound.

  • Laura
    2019-04-13 00:57

    i will admit upfront that i did not read this book from cover to cover. i think that is the beauty about a "guide" book. i read the chapters that were specific to things i was interested in learning more about -- careers, home cleaning/cooking, money managing. it also had some great online resources, and some other books referenced, which are now on my library list. a lot of the material in this book was similar to the graduation book that wash u gave me, but it was more humorous and of course geared towards young women. worth a browse for any 20-something.

  • Claire
    2019-03-23 23:04

    I love this book! I've had my local library's copy hostage for the past two months. It provides information on everything from building a good credit history, job interviewing skills, dating advice, how to pick out a good haircut, how to deal with your family, how to roast a chicken and how to deal with a clogged drain. The best part is that it's written in a fun conversational tone, like having a sassy big sister in book form.

  • Danika Ellis
    2019-03-24 23:09

    I thought this one was pretty good, but not really worth re-reading. It had some helpful tips for a variety of things, but I realized after buying it that's it's primarily aimed at post-university American women, so a lot of the hints didn't help me (as a 17-year-old Canadian) very much. Overall, not bad, easy-to-read, quite interesting.

  • Gloria Yasmin
    2019-04-05 05:51

    Such a helpful book. You may think you don't need a guide and of course, you don't have to take everything from the book only the bits and pieces that you found to be truly fitting for your life, but for me this was a great book. It felt as though the things found in this book would be similar to the things my older sister would have informed me about, if I had a sister.

  • Zoey
    2019-04-12 23:49

    “A fun and immensely practical read. Everything you wish someone had told you about navigating "real life" in your 20s--buying a car, being a house guest, relating to your parents, conducting yourself at work. Too bad that I disagree so strongly with her advice about relationships and spirituality, b/c those are 2 of the most crucial areas. Still, one to keep.”

  • Courtney Johnson
    2019-04-22 02:50

    I found most of this advice to just be common sense or things I already know. The sections I found most intriguing were manners and home. I don't think I would ever really refer back to this book, as the few things I would use could just be found on the internet again. But it was certainly a fun read.

  • Tabbitha Lindsley
    2019-04-06 21:42

    Although a tad outdated on a few things, this was a helpful and decent read. It gives advice on everything from finding the right job, the right partner, to keeping the right people in your circle. Not to shabby.

  • Kimberly
    2019-04-01 04:51

    I read this at the suggestion of one of my coworkers. It has some things that are good to know and may be good as a reference guide for a college age girl etc. but it has bad language and some other references that I did not like.

  • Meghan
    2019-04-19 01:56

    So much useful info! And written in a way that is casual and humorous, but not cheesy or superficial. I really enjoyed reading this, and it has lots of useful info that comes in handy down the road, so owning this book is a good idea for the reference info.

  • Linda
    2019-04-04 21:53

    every college-aged girl needs this book! a guide that covers everything from health to how to clean an oven properly to professionally resigning from a position. a great resource - this will be sitting on my bookshelf long past my college years.

  • jiitterbug524
    2019-04-16 00:54

    I love this book and I find myself referring to it again and again. I would highly recommend this for any woman's growing bookshelf. The author covers so many topics and gives great advice on all of them- and I love the layout of the book!

  • Aimee
    2019-04-21 06:08

    I love this book. It's a great "a little about everything" book without being too simplistic. She also gives websites and references if you want to find out more about the topic as she admits in the intro that she can't cover EVERYTHING.

  • Jenny M
    2019-04-08 03:57

    Seriously EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW and more then you ever thought you did. Excellent information on every venue of a young woman's life. Money, family, dating, sex, health, career, style, even a little home economics...and I'm not talking "how to sew a scrunchie".

  • Nance
    2019-04-22 02:00

    WOW! Every young woman in her 20s needs to read this. This book says it's about absolutely everything and IT REALLY IS! It has information on homekeeping, relationships, etiquette, finances, friendships, health, & so much more! I have a feeling I'll be revisiting this frequently.

  • Jen
    2019-04-03 01:43

    I picked this up after wandering around the store and it had some really helpful info. I prob would have appreciate the book a lil more had I been in college or just graduated. It gives great advice on manners, credit,'s really a good chick encyclopedia.

  • Carrie
    2019-03-27 03:43

    A great beginner book for those reading reference. I touches on many topics, but a few leave me wanting more information. The Chapter on family was great - espeically relating to your parents as adults... something I'm struggling with.

  • Heather
    2019-03-23 23:46

    I think this book has some great information in it. It seems more useful for a girl just starting out on her own, but I still came across a few useful tips and facts that I didn't know.

  • Kristine Achuff
    2019-04-17 03:05

    an excellent read

  • Britt
    2019-04-08 22:45

    Very informative and fun!

  • Claire
    2019-03-27 21:56

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